theWAHMmagazine: From the Editor’s Desk

We all get inundated with spam…daily, if not several times a day. Usually, our spam filters catch them, sending those offers to enlarge your member (hello, I’m a woman), the executor of the estate from your long-lost deceased Nigerian uncle (who knew?) offering you a small fortune, and indicators that you have one the lottery among other bogus offers and rediculous claims straight to the spam/bulk mail box. With a simple “click,” you can make them disappear. But let’s face it, you have to look, because sometimes e-mail that you actually want gets in there, and sometimes the spam makes it past the automatic anti spam e-mail filters and end up in your inbox anyway. It’s annoying to say the least. So wouldn’t it be nice if there were a company, a service—something—to put the brakes on spam even further?

In theory, there is. In practice, I’m not so sure. Perimetic is a new company that seems to be using Barracuda Technologies to bring super anti spam protection to the small business owner and individual client. Barracuda has already made strides in offering anti spam hardware to large companies with big budgets, so the idea of being able to have a similar level of protection available to us little guys and gals is promissing. After all, why should we be relegated to all of the muck that can come from anyone with an e-mail address just because we don’t have super huge budgets? Unfortunately, Perimetec’s site is down, so I cannot give an entirely objective opinion about them or their anti spam filtering, web security services or e-mail protection. You can rest assured though, that once their site’s back up and running, I’ll be updating this post. My fingers are crossed and breath is baited.

UPDATE:

Perimetec’s site is back up and running, and as promised, I’ve checked them out. Their offerings for anti spam filtering, web security services and e-mail protection do indeed seem promising. Several well-recognized, trusted and highly respected companies and institutions are listed among their clients, which should give potential new clients a sense of confidence in their capabilities. Their anti spam filtering, web security services and e-mail protection services seem to be cost effective for any budget. According to the information on their very clear and well organized site, information transmitted is handled through their servers, catching and filtering spam before it reaches your mailbox. There are three levels of messages: spam (which is not sent to you); suspect messages (which are quarrantined for your approval); and legitmate messages (which are sent to you). Users can access the messages marked as suspect and decide on their actual status. One of my favorite features of the site is their spam-cost calculator, which based upon the number of mailboxes you or your company uses, average number of daily spam messages received, and average earnings of each person receiving spam, calucates the lost productivity in terms of dollars and cents. I also like the 30-day free trial option that is offered. Perimetec also provides white papers and spec sheets on their products and services to help potential customers make an informed decision. This Canadian company may indeed be the breakthrough needed to nip spam in the bud, declutter our inboxes and help keep us from wasting valuable time.

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When the New York Times placed its piece on the 1,000+ attendees at this year’s BlogHer conference in San Francisco, in the Style section, it got some attention. Amber Naslund, who writes the The Brand Box, thought that the Times’ “Blogging’s Glass Ceiling” article was misplaced. So did many others, as evidenced by the comments that followed Amber’s original post, New York Times Creates a Fashion Faux Pas about BlogHer, which included the letter to the editor sent to Times.

In most cases, a letter to the editor would either get published or not by a paper. Those that do are often edited for length, or content that would be hateful or demeaning to others or uses profanity. Amber’s letter, however received a different kind of response — a call from the Times. “Oh cool!” You’re thinking. “That’s big.” It would be if it weren’t for the fact that the call consisted of asking Amber to, in no other terms, revise and resubmit the letter to the editor. For those reading this who are freelance writers, you probably have received the old “revise and resubmit” from an editor or two. I’ve even handed them out myself, but only in the case when a writer is pitching a piece that has legs, but needs … something … more. Amber wasn’t pitching an article for consideration. She was sounding off as a reader in the traditional way that readers have been allowed to give their input on stories in printed media.

For an editor at the Times (or anywhere else for that matter) to request a revision to a letter to the editor (not an Op Ed, mind you), is overstepping. This is a cautionary tale for current and aspiring writers, because, there are many people, who, upon being contacted by a representative of the Ivory Tower, would have been so excited that they perhaps might have altered the letter to the editor to appease the great machine.

Sadly, the Times’ placement of the story and focusing on fashion, restrooms and lactation areas is yet another example of mainstream media not being willing to fully embrace the stronghold that women bloggers have. I’ve discussed this before here, in my condemnation of the Today Show’s  commentary about mom bloggers.  There too, placent was an issue, because the segment on the power of mom bloggers was during the “softer” segment with Hoda Kotbe and Kathy Lee Gifford. I am not alone in my thinking, as noted women bloggers Connie Reece, B.L. Ochman and others have asserted that this kind of mindset is an unfortunate (and misguided) trend that serves to undermine any real work that these women bloggers may be doing, whether it’s the creation of a strong and powerful network (as BlogHer has) or having something to say more relevant than about cute kiddie moments, poopy diapers and ersasatz husbands. (Not that blogging about those things can’t be therapeutic or don’t have power in their ability to offer a sense of “thank God I’m not alone” for others.)

What does this have to do with being a WAHM? First, let’s face it, many of us WAHMs are bloggers (whether professionally or for our own personal journaling satisfaction). Many of the women at Blogher ‘08 are WAHMs. Many of us (WAHMs) are also writers, and most of us, have at some point considered penning a letter to the editor. So the editor’s response to Amber’s letter is one that any of us could have received, and been duped by the power of the establishment to bend to their whim.  Second, Mack Collier also makes an interesting point that while the Times may have reached out to Amber, they missed the point and showed how they (and other mainstream media outlets) are out of touch with bloggers. I offer that they are also out of touch with their female audience. Blogging women are still being considered stylish, fashionable, soft — almost a novelty, and one that like fashion, mainstream media seems to believe is a fleeting phenomenon. (Newsflash…it’s not.) Perhaps the Times figured that more women readers would see the article by placing it in the Style section. But if that’s the case, what does that say about how the Times views its female readership? Are we not reading the Technology or Business sections and only reading page six and the Style and Arts sections? This kind of thinking is inherently disrespectful of our intelligence and abilities as women to play equally in the tech/communications game or have interests beyond the mommy-war-du-jour and the latest handbags, shoes and what’s hot for fall.

I wonder what the women at Blogher and noted feminist publications such as Bitch Magazine, WOW-Women on Writing and Ms. magazine would think, espeically since both the editor and the author of the piece are also women.

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What are your thoughts?

Erika-Marie S. Geiss
Editor-in-Chief
theWAHMmagazine

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Thinking outside the box

In many ways, the WAHM (and WAHD) acronyms have us boxed in — pigeonholed as being involved in sales, home parties, crafts and MLM.  Still, even worse, when they see the term “WAHD,” thoughts are often of a guy who has feminized, rather than is a feminist, and is interested in capturing a different and more-balanced work-life/family-life experienece than his own father had or created. Even with the multitude of writers, designers, Web professionals and Virtual Assistants out there it is still rare for people to think of the vast array of professions represented by the work-at-home community. But the work-at-home world is much larger than any of the positions already mentioned (and way more than what the scammers try to offer). Whether or not one subscribes to the acronyms that describe the various states of being a working parent (WAHMs, WAHDs, SAHMs, WOHMs and so on), there is an underlying question of: “Who is a work-at-home parent?” Continue Reading »

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I’m kicking off this week with a little modified version of link love, to thank those who’ve mentioned theWAHMmagazine or linked to us this past week.

In full disclosure, in some cases, we asked to be included, in others, the writers were kind enough to mention theWAHMmagazine without any prompting from us. In either case, I can’t thank them enough.

The goal is to make this a regular feature here at From the Editor’s Desk, the companion blog to theWAHMmagazine. So if you’re reading this and have mentioned theWAHMmagzine, and Google alerts or pingbacks/trackbacks didn’t catch it, don’t hesitate to let us know (by commenting) so that we can return the love. And hey, even if you’ve given us something less than love, don’t hesitate to let us know too (by commenting) so that we can respond and still give you your props for opining live and direct on the Web. And if I missed anyone, please let me know so that I can add you.  If you’re wondering what to do if you’ve blogged about us before this new series, still let us know, so that I can do a pre-series recap “down the Pike a bit” as we say back in Boston. (Don’t want to leave anyone out, because, well…that just wouldn’t be fair now would it?) Continue Reading »

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If you are already a business-owning WAHM, we might be preaching to the choir, but if you’re considering becoming a homebased business owner this information may be just what you need to validate your decisions, encourage your project, educate you about some of the pros and empower you to  get started. If you’re a hombased business-owning WAHM and are having one of those “moments” when you wonder if you’ve lost your mind, then it just might also help reaffirm all of the reasons why you have chosen the lifestyle that you have chosen. (Sometimes we all need a little reminder of the goals that we set or maybe its time to readjust those goals because you’re in a growth period or are ready for one.) Whatever the reason, or stage in your homebased business, we hope that you enjoy  “Why more women are choosing to start a home business” brought to you by Bizymoms. Continue Reading »

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Issue four, the Back to School issue is finally live after many, many, many hours of working on the redesign amidst overlapping deadlines and a rambunctious toddler who feels that this is the perfect time to practice the “terrible twos.”

Here are some statistics about the Back to School issue:

• Hours of production: gazillions
• Number of articles: 38
• Number of pages: 116
• Number of links (many of which had to be entered manually): 493

I’m not going to mention the number of nights spent up until the wee hours, or the number of times I uttered the phrase, “I need to finish the magazine. Can you take him?” and other curious sentiments. Continue Reading »

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Today, as I worked on the July/August issue of theWAHMmagazine, I received an e-mail from Nancy, one of our contributing writers. (Look for Nancy’s two-part series on the issues of overscheduling in the next two issues of theWAHMmagazine.) Nancy directed me to the Wall Street Journal’s recent blog post in it’s segment The Juggle, “Women ‘Opting Out’: An Overblown Myth, New Study Says.“

The blog post/article was about a recent study out of Princenton University by Christine Percheski and published in the June 2008 issue of American Sociological Review.  Percheski’s study of work-force trends of women who are mothers and not mothers over the 45-year period between 1960 and 2005 also prompted Pamela Stone to write the feature article “The Rhetoric and Reality of Opting Out” in Contexts, another publication by the American Sociological Association.

Are we really opting out?

Percheski’s study sheds a lot of light on the labor force trends of women in the United States, and questions whether there is even an Opt-Out phenomenon or revolution occurring among professional Continue Reading »

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There’s going to be a lot of buzz around the blogosphere today talking about how much it sucked yesterday that Twitter was down, multiple times. Add to that, the fact that the direct reply function seemed to be broken (or taken offline by the Twitter guys) and you’ve got a lot of people a bit ticked off that the big microblogging application just wasn’t performing up to snuff.

For a lot of people, this: 

turned into this: Continue Reading »

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For anyone who’s seen Meet the Fokers, I’m sure you can picture Robert DeNiro’s character talking about the circle of trust — constantly. His idea of inclusion and exclusion takes on comic proportions because Jack is more about excluding people than trying to include people. But what does the Circle of Trust mean for us as work-at-home professionals, especially as many of us brave the e-commerce/Internet business world?

In the middle of working on a couple of entirely different posts, events unfolded that led to combining them as each issue I planned to address seemed to be elements of the Circle of Trust.

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Trust

We aim to build trust with our friends an family, aim to build trust with our clients and with the people who are part of our network. We hope that as we go through life, we are viewed as trustworthy, honest, likeable, professional and that our reputation precedes us for all the right reasons.

What does trust do? It makes people believe in you. It makes people want to hire you or work with you. It makes people care and want to be part of your network, and when you have a problem, want to help you. But trust isn’t a one-way street. You have to build trust.  So how do you do that? Keep reading.
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As I was returning from dropping my son off at my mother-in-law’s today, I was listening to an interview on my local NPR affiliate. On WDET, U.S. Representative Joe Knollenberg (R-Mich.) was discussing the Big Three Act, his proposal for lowering fuel costs for Americans. During the interview, among the measures Rep. Knollenberg mentioned that Americans can do now to reduce consumption is by governments and companies to go to a four-day work week (as some municipalities have already done). He indicated that by doing so, it reduces the economic burdon that we are all experiencing by the high gas prices that threaten to make your Lincoln worth nothing more than a coupon for a gallon of gas. Continue Reading »

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